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[00:00:00] What would your life, business, and bank account look like if you fully owned your power? What if fear no longer held you back and you gave yourself full, unapologetic permission to step into everything that you know you're capable of. That's my intention with this podcast is to help you become that version of yourself, that version of yourself that you know lives deep within you and is so ready to break through and claim her fucking stage.
So that she can create the life, the business, the bank account that she desires, that you know, you're capable of creating. Welcome to the very first episode of she who dares today, I want to go deep. I want to have a no bullshit conversation with you about what it means to stop playing small, what it [00:01:00] means to break through your limits and to truly go all in on you, your life and what you want.
Because let's be honest, you know, deep down that you're meant for more, you know, deep down that you're capable of more. And how do I know this? Because this is such a commonality that I see in so many of my students and clients. And I see it in myself. We are driven, ambitious, loud, bold, powerful women who have been told time and time again that we are too much, too loud, too passionate, too sensitive, too aggressive, too bossy by all the people throughout our lives who were threatened and intimidated by our power.
And then, little by little, bit by bit, We started to limit ourselves. We started to play small to fit into places. We were never meant to [00:02:00] fit hiding who we truly are. And now you're out here. You're a powerful woman who's diluted her power time and time again, and she's got big goals. You've got big goals, big dreams.
You're trying to build the business, create the life, be who, you know, deep down, you are truly authentically meant to be. So you can create this beautiful life that you want to create and make the impact that you want to make. And you're probably finding that somewhere along this journey of creating what you want,
something's missing your power. That's what's missing. The thing that's missing is your power, the same power that you spent majority of your life being told to hide because it's too much. Your power is the thing that is missing. And it's time for you to remember who the fuck you are and unapologetically reclaim that [00:03:00] power and show your life, your business, your bank account, what you're truly made of.
So let's deep dive into. What's standing in your way how this podcast is going to help you to shift that starting today with our very first episode of the she who dares. Let me share a little bit about my own journey, because the reason that I'm passionate about this, this work, this conversation it's because of where I have been.
So let me take you back all the way back to like pre pubescent crystal. I was born into this world with a really strong sense of self. I knew who I was. I knew what I wanted, and I had no problems from a really young age going after what I want, telling the world what I wanted and making it happen.
Nothing can stand in my way, but that was a lot of personal power for a really [00:04:00] young girl, right? And that personal power that I was born with, You know, people started to point out to me at a really young age, that it was a bit much, that I was too much, I was too bold. I was too loud. I was too bossy and little by little by people pointing this out to me because they were uncomfortable.
I started to hide my power. I started to dilute myself. And by the time I was nine years old, I feel like the world already decided who I was and what I needed to change about myself. And you're going to relate to this because you're my women, you're my people. I was too loud, too bossy, too determined, too aggressive, too much, but just about everybody.
And so I started to water myself down. I started to dim my light. I started to bite my tongue. I started to hide my true authentic self, my power so that other people around me would feel more comfortable. Now everyone else around me might've [00:05:00] felt more comfortable with the diluted version of myself. But it had a detrimental impact on my relationship with myself.
And so after years and years of really struggling with my own self, I decided to go all in on me and remember who the fuck I was and reclaim my power. I really built the stage and I stand on it every single day in all of my power. And since 2018, when I launched She Who Dares and started showing other women how to do this for themselves.
And since then I've helped hundreds of women in my courses. Private work and all the ways. Over the last five years, my business has grown and made such a huge impact globally on so many women's lives. And I've walked side by side with hundreds of women to do my powerful breakthrough work, business mentoring, coaches, online courses, and programs.
It's been [00:06:00] an incredibly rewarding journey. The biggest, most rewarding journey of my life. I've had huge successes, lots of failures. And I'm going to talk about those failures on this podcast because our greatest lessons And our biggest successes come from our failures and something that I'm really proud of and really speak to and teach all the time is embracing failure, like being able to recover really quickly after a failure, no matter how many times I've been knocked down.
And just like you, I've been knocked down a lot. I get back up. I get back up quickly. And the truth is, when I think about my she who dares journey and all that's been created over the past you know, since 2018, five to six years, I like truly can stand here in my power and say to you, I have not even scratched the surface of the impact.
I know that I'm here to make, right? I know there is a whole [00:07:00] nother level of power within myself. That I am building and working towards unlocking every day. And this podcast is a part of me standing even more so in my power and standing up and saying, I have something to say, and I want you to listen to what I have to say, and I want us to walk side by side together and go on this beautiful, powerful, magnetic.
Impacting expanding journey together. So I'm here going to drop into your ears every Wednesday with the she who does podcast a lot about my own journey has been about reclaiming my power, right? And really just unapologetically showing the world all of me, which has not been easy, right? When you've spent your whole life being told you're too much, you're too loud.
So I've been like taking off those masks and peeling back those layers over the last 10 years. So I can be the most authentic unapologetic version of myself. [00:08:00] And that is what I want for all the women in the she who dares community is to be able to remember who they are, reclaim their power and just own our most authentic selves.
Here's what I really want you to know is all the things that you've been, you're too much of, too loud, too talkative, too bossy. They are not bad traits. In fact, they are your superpowers. And once you own them, you're going to unlock so much magic and magnetism in your life. , the parts of yourself that you have been hiding. Are the parts that make you your most powerful, that your most authentic self and they are the pathway to your superpower, to unlocking the life that you truly want to really being in your magnetism era and being able to create time and time and time, what it is that you want in your business, in your bank account, in all areas of your life. So as long as you choose [00:09:00] Right. Cause it is a choice to continue to hide your true self from the world. You are capping your income and your impact. You're not just diluting yourself. You're also diluting your influence, your message, your impact, your income, your connection, and your fucking greatness.
And all that that is doing is blocking you from the success you want, the money you want, the impact you want, the relationships you want. You're doing the world an entire disservice when you wear a mask and hide who you are and dilute your power. This is actually a conversation that I have with one of my business mentor clients recently.
I could see that she wasn't fully showing up in her power. She was doing all the do you. Following all the actions and applying the strategy. Right. But something was missing. It wasn't translating into the sales that I knew that she could create. And I shared this with [00:10:00] her, what I could see and what I believe was the missing ingredient in her business.
And it was her power. She was doing all the incredible work, right? Following all the steps. But every time she would go and stand on the stage that she had built for herself in her business, she wasn't doing it in all of her absolute power. Right. And it just lacked. That part of her and her audience energetically can feel it, whether they know what it is they're feeling, they can just feel something is off.
So we did a breakthrough session together to get to the root cause of what was driving that behavior and why she wasn't fully standing up in her power. And we discovered that she was holding a subconscious fear around people judging her and that it was actually not something that was safe for her to be seen.
It wasn't safe for her to show the world who she really is. [00:11:00] It wasn't safe for her to really show the world her most authentic, most powerful self. So this limiting and disempowering belief was actually formed from an event when she was around that seven, eight, nine years old. And ever since that event, my client started to hide herself, dilute her power in the hopes that other people would accept her more.
And we spent that session really getting to that root cause and like reframing her beliefs, using a powerful process that I use in my breakthrough coaching, which is timeline therapy. So first we released the fear, then we rewired her belief and the results so far have been incredible. This is just one breakthrough session that we did on this.
Specific fear and belief. And just 24 hours later, my client was in my inbox, sending me the most incredible voice message that I want to share with you. I feel so [00:12:00] privileged and lucky because every single day clients are in my email, my inbox, my DMs, sending me messages, sending. The voice messages of like the impact of the work that we're doing together, that it's having on their mindset, their energy, identity.
You know, when I really think about the breakthrough work, it's around that identity that you've stepped into. To be accepted, to be liked, to feel safe. We dismantle that, right? So you can come back to the truest version of yourself, be your most authentic self, own your power, remember who the fuck you are, right?
So a lot of the work is that really deep identity shifting, which is mindset, beliefs, all of it. So this is the voice message that my client sent to me that I want to share with you. It. Red morning, beautiful. I thought I would send you a voice message about how I'm feeling after our breakthrough session.
I actually held a group session last night [00:13:00] with a bunch of women and all my fucking God, such a shift, a complete shift. Compared to my first group session that I held, I felt so much more in my power and so much more in control. It was amazing. I'm actually finding it hard to articulate energy and the difference that I feel within myself.
I just felt so in control and I stood in my power and I felt it was so easy and light and felt by the women in the group session, I can't wait to hold my next one. Thank you so much. So I just read that message and that just lit me the fuck up because I could see in the 24 hours since our breakthrough session on this specific fear and believe the impact I could see in how she was showing up in her energy.
And we're going to talk a lot about energetics and energy. So let's in probably every episode, because it's a big part of my teachings. It's like that energetic shift. I could feel it. I could see it. She could feel it. She [00:14:00] could see it. Her community could feel it and see it. And it was having within 24 hours, a huge impact already in her business.
Which is just the best, right? I just like love, helping women remember who the fuck they are, step into their power. But then I love to see that actually become something tangible where they're actually creating the results they want in their life, their business, their bank account, the impact they want to make all of the things.
So with this particular client, we have a few more sessions booked in to do more breakthrough work together alongside the business strategy that we're also doing. So we can get deeper and deeper in helping her to dismantle these beliefs that she holds to. Subconsciously that are blocking her success because she is good at taking action.
I mean, this particular client, can I just say known each other a long time, and one of the things that really showed up in her business is that she was super inconsistent. She would show up on social media and then she would run back and hide. You know, show up, show up, and this was a pattern that was [00:15:00] playing out in her business and why this is so detrimental in business is that energetically it builds distrust with your audience.
If you are not consistent in showing up and owning your stage, speaking in your power. Talking about what you do consistently. If it's a bit of a start, stop, start, stop. Energetically, people are not going to feel like they can trust you, right? Because you're not showing up fully in your business. You're not showing up fully in your power and in your messaging.
So this client, even though we're doing breakthrough work and we're discovering deeper beliefs that we're helping her to release. One of the things I just want to like it. You know, give her kudos for is that this year. She has been so consistent. And can I tell you this year as well? Side note in her business, she has been sick so many times with flu cold covert.
She's had so many external things. That she could have used as excuses as to not show up and she has consistently showed up and that in [00:16:00] itself has built her self confidence that in itself has allowed us to have deeper, more powerful conversations that allowed us to me to even say to her, you're showing up.
Well done. A plus, but now we need to show up in your absolute power. You're still holding back, right? And that's the kind of deeper work now that we're doing a more breakthrough work together, which is, you know, that alone is going to have a huge impact in our business. So why is this important? Right? Why is this conversation important?
Because people buy people, then they buy the things that the people sell. All right. So before energetically, someone buys from you, they are going to buy you first. And if they don't buy you your power, your message, they're not going to buy shit of what you're selling. So what do I mean by this is people feel our energy.
They first need to buy you. Right. Before they're going to buy what you're selling. And if you're showing up inauthentically, [00:17:00] not in your power, in this meek, mild energy, without conviction, not standing in your power, just like I am now, I'm speaking to you in my power with so much passion, right? And conviction, they are not going to buy what you're selling, right?
That energy does not attract buyers. So I want to invite you any area of your life business where you can apply this. Where are you showing up meek and mild? No more. Where are you showing up as pick me energy? No more. We've got to let this go. We've got to start to become aware of how we're showing up and the energy that we bring into the room.
And when I say room, your business, your work, your relationships, all the places that you're showing up. So no more, make mild, no more, pick me energy. No more. I hope someone sees my value and worth. I hope somebody buys my thing. It's like, no, we're drawing a line in the sand and we [00:18:00] know Right. We've decided, right.
We're in our power. So this is the energy that creates a huge fucking impact. Okay. That's the energy that we are building. We are becoming, we are remembering, we are claiming. I want you to think about this. So why would somebody trust you to lead them and guide them Why would they invest in you and what you're selling when your own energy is speaking so clearly that you don't fully back yourself?
Why would they back you? You are going to need to back you first. Right. You are going to need to lead you first before other people are going to invest in you and trust and know with every cell in their body that you can take them where they want to go. that looks like for you in your business.
Whatever it is that you do, whether it's your career, your business, whatever. So something that I [00:19:00] often say and speak to a kind of quote, a mantra that I'm known for is I lead the universe follows when I move the universe moves with me. This same energy applies with what I'm teaching right now. What we're speaking to in this episode, you are the one that leads your audience, your community, and they want to be led by you.
And they want to be led by somebody who's standing in their power and standing in their conviction. They want to feel like you are 100 percent rock solid in your beliefs and your mindset and what you're teaching and you're embodying it. You have to be the one that goes first to stand up, to stand up strong and stand up in your power and take your mask off and speak with conviction, belief and passion.
And when you do, it'll be like a moth to flame. So my client, Was showing up in this, like, I knew, I don't know what I'm doing energy. [00:20:00] Not because these things weren't true, but because she was so used to hiding and being fearful of being seen in her power and showing the world who she truly is.
My client created a story that it was safer for her to dilute herself and that others would like her more and accept her more if she wasn't her true authentic self because for so many years, you know, all through her younger years, she was told she was too much, but the truth is is her purpose.
Right? In her life, her dreams, her desires to be liked by everyone. And I want you to ask yourself this question. Is that actually what's important to you? your goals so big and the impact you want to make so big that that actually shouldn't fucking matter. It's not about being liked by everyone. Or is it about making an impact?
Because I'll tell you [00:21:00] something. I know for me, impact is my highest value in business. And when I live in alignment to that value, right, it allows me to show up with fear, show up with doubt, show up in conviction of my power, no matter what, because I am led by my values and my highest value is making an impact.
So when I think about me, That might stop me, but when I think about all of you who are going to tune into this episode, all my students, all my clients, that overrides my fear, the impact that I know I'm here to make. And so in order for me to make that impact. The impact that I desire, , I've had to become so comfortable time and time again with not always being liked, with not always being understood, with not always being accepted in order for me to make an impact that I want to make that I know I'm here to make, right?
I know that [00:22:00] I'm not going to be for everyone, but I know the women that I'm for, they are going to get it. They're going to feel my energy for them. Feel my conviction, feel my power, and it's going to inspire them. It's going to expand them and it's going to impact them. That's why I'm here for those women.
So if you're doing all the things and you're not getting the results you desire, this could be the missing piece for you and the difference between where you are and where you want to go. Owning your power, and that's my invitation to you is to start to become aware of where you're not owning your power and start to have this internal conversation with yourself.
Start to see what you've not been able to see and start to work towards remembering who the fuck you are, reclaiming your power. Right. And showing the world your most authentic self, because that's where the magnetism [00:23:00] attraction impact income, all the things that you want is on the other side of that.
I know for me, like after years and years of hiding my own power, I drew a line in the sand and decided to go all in. On rebuilding me so that I could stand strong within myself and create the life business money that I desired, that I knew that I was here to make. And I did this through breakthrough work, shifting my mindset, shifting my identity, rewiring my old and outdated belief systems and healing all these old wounds that were like blocks and holding me back subconsciously from just doing and creating what I want.
And I did this through breakthrough work and I've been able to go from, you know, constantly seeking outside validation from others, instead of , like seeking it from within feeling like I had to prove myself feeling like I was always saying the wrong thing and fucking everything up, you know, and feeling like I was too loud, too bold, too [00:24:00] bossy, too aggressive, too much for just about everybody is how I felt most of my life.
And all of that held me back all of that. Blocked my success, blocked who I was meant to be, blocked the impact that I was meant to create.
And through the work that I now teach in my courses, my private breakthrough work, business mentorship work, this is all work that I've done on myself. And now I'm the embodiment of that message. I walk the walk, I talk the talk, right? I remembered who I am.
I stand strong within myself. And I've reclaimed my power, regardless of what everyone else thinks, not my problem, right? I've decided to become so solid in myself and who I am that no matter how shaky the ground beneath me gets, I stand strong in who I am, my power and the deep and transformational work that I've done for myself, my clients and my students.
It's been six years, [00:25:00] actually, since I finished my breakthrough and it's been even now, like six years on the impact of that work and that transformation, it still blows my mind. I'm still reaping the benefits bit by bit, day by day by embodying this work by integrating this work more and more. And I see that in.
All of my clients as well, I've got it over a hundred women through personal breakthroughs and almost every day they're in my inbox sharing with me the impact of the work that it's had on them. So in order for you to create the thing that you know, you're here to create, you have to stop playing small, right?
You have to stop holding yourself back. Remember who you are and reclaim your power. And no matter where you are in your journey, there is always another level to unlock, right? There's always more. There's always not a level to unlock, but at the same breath, like we're not like hustling for that. Like you can love and honor every stage that you're at, [00:26:00] but no, if you are like me, there's more, right?
There's more, you know, there's more, that you can be, do have create. So if you are listening to this right now and it feels like I'm speaking directly to you, it's because I am. I am speaking directly to you. This episode is for you and it has the power to be the thing that creates the biggest shift for you before we close out the end of this year.
There's two months left at the end of this year and if you really like, , Absorb this, like really apply what I'm speaking to right now. You can make this end of the year. So fucking powerful. And that's what I want for you. . So your first official day on our first she, who does podcasts is some powerful journaling questions that I want to invite you to journal on. Think about marinating, whatever your processes. And these are actual questions that I ask myself time and time again, right?
One, where are you playing [00:27:00] small? Where in your life business are you playing small? Where are you hiding parts of yourself? Where are you giving your power away? And where are you not showing up as your most authentic self? So question one, where are you playing small? Question two, where are you hiding?
What are you hiding? What are you not saying? Question three, where are you giving your power away? Where are you not standing in your power in your life, your business? And number four, where are you actually not showing up as your most authentic self? These are all similar questions asked in a similar way, slightly different.
And I like to do journaling questions in this way, because I feel like when you ask the same question in different ways, it helps you to get to a deeper level answer. And we're not here for surface level bullshit as she who dares, [00:28:00] we go deep, right? So I want to invite you to ask yourself these journaling questions.
And the truth is the answer to these questions has the power to be your line in the sand moment where you decide definitively to remember who you are and reclaim your power. And for all of you who are listening, who are all in women like me, right. All the way in all the fucking time who are not only ready for your next level, but you're actually ready to break through all the bullshit.
Like you're so fucking over yourself. You know who you are, you know what you could be, but there's shit getting in the way. Bullshit beliefs, disempowering stories that are holding you back from your next level of impact and income in your business, then I invite you to book a complimentary call with me to learn about my one to one breakthrough work.
Okay, this is a high level, intimate session. Six month journey where we work side by side, shoulder to shoulder. And I guide you through [00:29:00] my transformative process of rewiring your belief system, remembering who the fuck you are and stepping into your power, right? So that you can be the most powerful version of you that, you know, you can be, you can see her already.
You know, you're not playing at a hundred percent. You know, you're holding yourself back. You know, your mindset is still talking a bunch of bullshit. It's not true. You're in a being girls running the show, right? But you know that there's more, right? And in the breakthrough work, that's going to take you from where you are to where you want to be in all areas of your life, business, relationship, impact, and money.
So the link, if you are like, I'm a link resort, like say no more, say no fucking more, right? The link to book this call will be in the show notes. For this episode. Okay. If you can't find it, you can also message me on Instagram. So thank you so much. Oh my God. We're here. We've just done our first episode of the she who does podcast.
I appreciate you so much for being [00:30:00] here and joining me on this episode. And with this being our first episode, I need your help and I need your support. And here's what I want you to know. The she who dares woman, we are like, unlike we're a special breed of woman because we support each other. We cheer for each other, right?
We are all walking side by side together. There's no hierarchy in the she who dares world. Right. And so I need your help. This is our first episode of the she who dares podcast. So it would mean so much to me if you jumped on Apple podcast and leave me a And episode was like mind blowing for you and I like, feels like I was speaking to you and you learned something, it shifted, you expanded, you jump on and share this episode on Instagram, tag me, slide into my DMS and let me know the impact this episode has had on you.
That would mean so much to me, right? So much to me, the she who dares woman supports other women, right? I'm going to always be cheering for you, supporting you. And I love when you guys [00:31:00] do that for me as well, because. That in itself is so fucking healing for women, right? That's not the normal, but we are creating a new normal here at She Who Dares.
I can't wait for the rest of our episodes to go on this journey with you. Thank you so much until next time. Lots of love, Crystal.
